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Why I am not a Feminist


There are many reasons why I am not a feminist, In this episode of a muslim mom podcast , I will be looking at why non-muslim women disagree with feminism. You can listen to all previous episodes of A Muslim Mom Podcast here

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Janice Fiamengo is a retired professor of English from the University of Ottawa. She hosts The Fiamengo File in which she reveals the fraud of academic feminism by examining its tenets, bizarre obsessions, outlandish claims, and its impact on western culture. She raises some insightful points regarding how liberal feminists are telling women how to think.  Her view on female solidarity is a real eye opener.

We are told to unconditionally show solidarity with women just because we are women, there is this idea that women should always stick together, support each other, empower each other. Why should we not question the beliefs and public actions of fellow women Muslim or non-Muslim? Particularly when they are putting themselves forward as role models or are asking the Muslim community to support them.

To begin with feminists asked us to support fellow women against all types of discrimination i.e. women with disabilities, women of colour.We are now being told to stand with every type of woman and the reason why we should do this is because all these types of women are victims of discrimination mainly by men.

As Muslims There’s 3 questions we need to ask  regarding this viewpoint we are being given.

  1. What should we support and call for?
  2. Should we support or march, campaign with women regardless of what ideas they are propagating.
  3. Or do we call for, support and empower people who are submitting and working for truth and justice as defined by Allah and his messenger?

You’ve probably noticed this mindset creeping into discussions about female muslim public figures. We are expected to applaud anything that a Muslim woman does.

  • If she wants to become an MP in the UK or a congresswoman in the US we are told to vote for her and donate money to her campaign.
  • If she is a  model or make-up artist  who gets a contract with a famous fashion brand then we should support her and buy into her brand.
  • If she is an activist marching for sexual liberation and abortion rights then we should amplify her voice.
  • If she’s an actress and lands a role in a Hollywood movie, we should applaurd her.

Nour Goda has explored this complicated issue in her article Playboy, Noor Tagouri, and Why it Even Matters

“Through Tagouri’s decision to collaborate with Playboy, and regardless of the content of the interview, she has affected the people who have uplifted her. When it comes to her public choices as a leader, she answers to a community outside of herself. This is true of all leaders.”

On social media there’s a wave of unthinking approval of all these so called amazing achievements, just because they are getting mainstream recognition.But what we should really be doing is stopping and thinking are these actions and behaviours what Allah tells us to do in the Quran. Are these goals in tune with the goals  that Prophet Muhammad (saw) prescribed a muslim woman to work for?

I don’t think that’s unreasonable. If Janice Fiamengo,  does not blindly accept the actions of fellow liberal secular women. I think we should also question the public behaviour of our fellow muslim sisters whether they are wearing a hijab, niqab or no head covering.

The first part of the podcast I explain the following hadith

Al-Bayhaqi reported: Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “Backbiting is worse to Allah than fornication and drinking wine, as fornication and drinking wine is a sin between you and your Lord. If you repent from them, Allah will accept your repentance. Yet backbiting is not forgiven unless the victim forgives you.”

Source: Shu’ab al-Imān 6229

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

Allah (S.W.T.) says in surat Al-Hujurat, (Verse 12), what can be translated as, “Don’t backbit one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting).” The prophet (S.A.W.) defined backbiting as, “You mention your brother with something that he hates.” We also mentioned that backbiting is a result of being hateful or envious to others. We also mentioned that the cure to backbiting is by fearing Allah (S.W.T.), repenting to Allah and asking Him for forgiveness, and not allowing anybody to backbite in front of us.


Today we will talk about certain exceptions for backbiting:

Firstly, a person who was unjustly treated. He can go to who is in position to remove the unjustness, like a judge or leader, and talk about how the other person took away his rights. Because the people cannot preserve their rights except this way. This is not backbiting because Allah (S.W.T.) said in surat An-Nisa’ (Verse 148), what can be translated as, “Allah does not like that the evil should be uttered in public except by him to whom injustice has been done.” Also reported by Imam Bukhari that the prophet (S.A.W.) said, “Not paying a loan back, when able to do so, allows a person, the loaner to mention it publicly, and the lender be punished.” The point here, then, is that complaining to whom is in position to remove the unjustness, is not considered backbiting.


Secondly, asking for fatwah, (an Islamic legal opinion) from a person with knowledge.

In such a request, he might mention things that happened between him and somebody else. Some of the things might not be good. But, Islam allows you to mention them as long as your intention is to know the hukum, (legal Islamic ruling) in those matters. The proof comes in the following of the prophets tradition, reported by Imams Bukhari and Muslim that Hind, the wife of Abu-Sofian said to the prophet, “Abo-Sofian is a stingy man, and he does not spend enough money on me and my child; except if I take from his money without his knowledge. The prophet (S.A.W.) told her, “Take what is enough for you and your child, with fairness.” In this narration, Hind mentioned Abu-Sofian, her husband, in a bad manner as a stingy man, yet prophet (S.A.W.) allowed it.


Thirdly, advising the Muslims about what is good for them in their daily life.

For example, if somebody asks you about a man or women whom he intends to marry or is a partner in business. You are required to tell what you know about him in terms of his suitability for what you are asked about. The proof comes from the prophet’s tradition reported by the group of hadith collectors except for Imam Bukhari, that Fatemah, daughter of Ques came to the prophet (S.A.W.) and said, “Abo-Jahm and Moa’weyah both proposed to marry me who should I accept?” The prophet (S.A.W.) replied that, “Moa’weah is a poor man, and Abo-Jahm beats his woman.” In this tradition, the prophet mentioned something that the two men hated to be mentioned; yet he said it because he was trusted for an advice.


Fourthly, warning Muslims and raising up their awareness of the enemies of Islam,

Especially if the enemies are from inside, such as they might be Muslims but they work, think, and plan against Islam. The proof comes from the prophet’s tradition, reported by Imams Bukhari and Muslim, that a man asked for permission to enter to see the prophet (S.A.W.). The prophet (S.A.W.) said, “Let him come in. What evil, he is.” (That person was a Muslim, but he’s not a good person). The prophet (S.A.W.) said so, to warn the Muslims around him from that man. Imam Bukhari also reported that the prophet (S.A.W.) said about two persons mentioning their names, “I do not think that those two persons know anything about our dean”.

He means that they are hypocrites, who show Islam, yet hide their unbelief. Imams Bukhari and Muslim also reported that Zaid Ibn-Arqam said that they were traveling with the prophet (S.A.W.) and there was a hardship on everybody. Abdullah-Ibn-Obai’, a well known hypocrite, said, “Don’t spend money on the companions until they leave the prophet (S.A.W.); When we reach Madinah we will kick the prophet (S.A.W.) out of Madinah. Zaid told the prophet (S.A.W.) about what was said. The prophet (S.A.W.) asked him about his sayings, but he swears that he did not say any such thing. Zaid was sad until Allah (S.W.T.) revealed, through, some, which proved that Zaid said the truth. In this tradition Zaid told the prophet (S.A.W.), what that hypocrite said, and the prophet (S.A.W.), agreed to what he said. The point then, is we are allowed to tell about the enemies of Islam.


The fifth is when you identify someone as the blind, deaf, mute, and handicapped person.

The objective is not to put him down, but only to identify him as he is known. However, if we can avoid mentioning his handicap, and finding other ways to identify him, such as his name, then this would be better.

Let’s be careful and watch our tongues from any backbiting. Tongues are one of the main reasons that make many people to enter the Hell Fire. Let’s stick to these exemptions we had mentioned, and not to extrapolate other.



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